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Post by marchewia on Jul 12, 2019 2:44:05 GMT -5
I kinda feel the same at work. I work in corporate environment right now and people here don't know shit about music like that. I listen to hardcore, sometimes metalcore but I don't want to be seen as a "metalhead" because, at least to me, it's something different. I can't quite explain hardcore to regular people so I avoid talking about it  |
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Post by stringypoo on Jul 12, 2019 6:11:35 GMT -5
I kinda feel the same at work. I work in corporate environment right now and people here don't know shit about music like that. I listen to hardcore, sometimes metalcore but I don't want to be seen as a "metalhead" because, at least to me, it's something different. I can't quite explain hardcore to regular people so I avoid talking about it  That’s a relatable feeling to me as well. Also, hardcore is quite a unique feeling of music that I wouldn’t feel particularly comfortable expressing that I like either. I used to like hardcore, but got tired of it eventually and became strictly a metal guy. But thinking back on it, I feel like there’s this intense attitudes about much of hardcore, which projects this very “loud” persona, which feels overwhelming when I think about how I’d explain my interest in hardcore to someone normal. I feel like it might be similar to if I was into gangsta rap or something and wanted my orchestra community to understand that I liked it. Lol When I thought about you working in a corporate community and liking hardcore, I had a somewhat false memory of what this music video setting was, but it’s still great and I will keep it here. When I thought of corporate and hardcore mixed together, this music video popped up in my head very quickly! Hahaha! |
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Post by xNickyUrinex on Jul 12, 2019 9:44:57 GMT -5
I originally read this title as "31 year old closested meatballhead." Way too early for me to be reading stuff, ha ha.
But, on topic, I can totally understand. I've never had a profession that really cared what type of music I listen to but having grown up liking metal/emo/hardcore I've gotten flack from all sorts of crowds in high school. The metal heads always picked on me liking emo and the hardcore kids picked on me liking metal. That is also not even to mention my parents, they definitely don't understand. I know whenever my dad would hear me listening to a post-hardcore band he would always comment something "Why doesn't the guy who can actually sign just sign on the whole album?" I think over time they've understood the energy behind it. They understand that sometimes metal just scratches a specific emotion. If you're angry or hurt sometimes it feels good to listen to music that has the energy of anger or hurt.
In the end, I would like to say that some people may judge you for liking metal but as someone who is basically a music professional I think it is also important to know and understand all genres of music. Just knowing one type of music sounds like you would be pretty bad at your job. I know when I took lessons for drums my teacher was into everything. He mainly played classic rock and jazz but when I brought him hardcore or metal drummers he would totally be into it and would even talk about how he could tell what the drummer was influenced by or who made certain techniques or styles popular. I always admired him in that way because it taught me that I could learn something from every genre of music.
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Post by tao on Jul 12, 2019 14:15:23 GMT -5
I kinda feel the same at work. I work in corporate environment right now and people here don't know shit about music like that. I listen to hardcore, sometimes metalcore but I don't want to be seen as a "metalhead" because, at least to me, it's something different. I can't quite explain hardcore to regular people so I avoid talking about it That’s a relatable feeling to me as well. Also, hardcore is quite a unique feeling of music that I wouldn’t feel particularly comfortable expressing that I like either. I used to like hardcore, but got tired of it eventually and became strictly a metal guy. But thinking back on it, I feel like there’s this intense attitudes about much of hardcore, which projects this very “loud” persona, which feels overwhelming when I think about how I’d explain my interest in hardcore to someone normal. I feel like it might be similar to if I was into gangsta rap or something and wanted my orchestra community to understand that I liked it. Lol When I thought about you working in a corporate community and liking hardcore, I had a somewhat false memory of what this music video setting was, but it’s still great and I will keep it here. When I thought of corporate and hardcore mixed together, this music video popped up in my head very quickly! Hahaha! I think you meant this: |
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Post by raydunlap8 on Jul 14, 2019 2:00:59 GMT -5
I recommend you rep your stuff my man. I know countless metal-heads who wear their jams on their sleeve and honestly it makes em' look like adorable goof-balls. This is a new age though. For example I work with a ton of ex military who probably think my music taste is not manly and it comes off as lame or immature.
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Post by clazza on Jul 14, 2019 2:36:57 GMT -5
I think you should just be who you wanna be. Long hair, jeans and a morbid angel t-shirt with a leather jacket complete with tassels and a sleeveless denim jacket over the top that is adorned with patches.
Oh and make sure you live on a diet consisting of only pizza, beer and narcotics.
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Post by Calvinball on Jul 14, 2019 16:49:28 GMT -5
I had an interesting experience that loosely related to this, I can't force myself to get into music I'm not enjoying. I was in a groomsmen in my cousins this weekend and while we were on the party bus from the church to wherever we were rocking out to some 80's pop music and other stuff that I just don't care about at all, everyone on the bus was singing and jamming out and having a ton of fun that I felt I was slightly missing out on, I'm sorry I don't know the words to these songs and I can't just pretend to like them. It's not like I was mopey or having a bad time per se, I just felt like they were all experiencing a moment I just don't allow myself to.
Then onward when we got to the wedding reception I did what I always do, I left super early. The band was playing all the same typical white people wedding songs that we've all been listening to since our middle school white people dances, and it's all crap that I just can't pretend to get into. I can't just go out to the dance floor and pretend to like Don't Stop Believing, it's not going to happen. I had a great time all weekend long and was honored to stand next to my cousin on his big day, but like I said, it just felt like I was missing out on some moments that everyone else got to cherish.
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Post by v9733xa on Jul 14, 2019 17:28:24 GMT -5
Man, that's what alcohol is for...
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Post by stringypoo on Jul 14, 2019 18:03:55 GMT -5
Man, that's what alcohol is for... You’re damn right!  |
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Post by stringypoo on Sept 24, 2019 0:07:23 GMT -5
So I recently came out as a metalhead to my co-teacher, maybe two weeks ago. The conversation came about naturally because we were discussing music choices for something relating to the students' interests, and my perspective being that I don't know what's popular with kids because I don't listen to music most people here are listening to. I really didn't feel comfortable, still, but I shared finally. I didn't know how to explain it to her in a way that made it sound appealing, so I just played the opening to "Hell Patrol" by Judas Priest from my phone.
Her facial expression went from curious to "uhh..UH? Huh... Hmm," if that gives you any idea. And I followed it up quickly with that I hoped it didn't change the way she viewed me, because I had experienced what that feels like before. But actually, despite her unique reaction to my preferences, she still treats me the same as before, and that's quite special, and probably not likely treatment from most of my coworkers here. So I guess I got lucky. But it also gave me just a smidge more confidence about sharing this about myself to others. In fact, the other day I just openly told another teacher that I'm a metalhead. She didn't react, and we were at the train station, so it's possible she just didn't hear that, but the fact that I felt safe enough to say it at all made me feel better.
So yeah, I'm getting closer to wearing my metal pride colors. haha
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Post by Blacksalt on Nov 10, 2019 9:59:48 GMT -5
I’m 40, and I’ve always been extremely proud of my musical tastes. I primarily listen to heavy music and like everything from blackened hardcore and death metal to Grindcore and melodic Doom. All of that being said I also agree that like 90% of people I meet, and/or work with just don’t get it. My friends and the people closest to me understand, as some of them listen to metal, but I don’t actively look for them to reinforce my beliefs in the joy of listening to it. stringypoo I can see how being in an environment surrounded by a different culture how it might be more appropriate to not share your specific interests with those around you. A lot of things come into play with politics, and personally being judged, and you might not want that to affect your quality of life or job security if some old Chinese codger doesn’t think they want you around the kids etc because he thinks your a devil workshopping satanist. That being said I don’t think you’re wearing death metal shirts to school and blasting Deicide during class breaks. I can totally see how you’d want to try and keep that shit to yourself tho, |
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Post by stringypoo on May 1, 2020 21:27:45 GMT -5
Well, this 31 year old closeted metalhead is turning 32 in less than a month’s time. I have made a little more progress on being able to openly say I’m into metal. I can think of at least two female coworkers who I’ve told very casually I like metal. One of them was super easy though, because she likes “noisy” music, at least more noisy than most Chinese women would ever admit to liking. It ain’t metal, but it was cool that she showed me some very unique Chinese bands with a rougher edge in their sound. Hilarious to me, she said her boyfriend always turns off her music because it’s too noisy to him. Lol
Well, anyway, one thing I’ve started noticing is that in certain social environments, carefully selecting who I share with, people here really don’t care what music I like. That’s definitely not true of all, but it’s pretty cool I didn’t lose the close relationships I had built over it. In my previous working environment in Arizona, that definitely did not seem to hold true for me.
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Post by Unlearner on May 2, 2020 0:43:12 GMT -5
Just introduce everyone you know to HORSE the Band and if they don't like it, they suck.
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Post by Unlearner on May 2, 2020 0:43:27 GMT -5
P.S.
I'm drunk.
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Post by stringypoo on May 2, 2020 1:11:05 GMT -5
Hahahaha To be fair, Horse The Band are an excellent test lol |
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